>> that was connecticut state police commissioner paul vance. we will bring you the updates as they develop throughout the morning. first i want to bring in my panel. msnbc contributor ari melbourne, and michael dicer, professor of georgetown university, and joy reid, editor of the grio.com, and also our mental health expert. obviously, we are still getting reports and know what is happening, but more importantly, we will know the names of the victims. so far, we know the name of the murderer, the name of the ass l assaila assailant, and you heard the police officer there ask the media not to go invade their homes. >> right. >> what are the kind of ethics of being media in a moment like this? >> well, i can tell you that when i saw initially the reports where they interviewed these little kids, all right, it was heartbreaking to watch, and it also felt wrong in a way. although, i know when my kids were registered in school in florida, they were media released meaning that you sign a media release at the beginning of the year so if there was a me